Before You Get Married, Don’t Find Out Too Late…
Reviewed by
KEA ADAMS
on
Wednesday, December 06, 2017
Rating:
5
Before You Get Married, Don’t Find Out Too Late…
- Wedding is not marriage. Do what you can afford. Don’t spend your
hard-earned cash or take a loan to have a great celebration when you
have no house to live in, no car and you’re struggling and managing
after the guests have said their goodbyes. Spend your extra and surplus
funds to fund your wedding.
- Don’t get married to anyone who has not discovered their purpose in
life. After the wedding, honeymoon, sex, kids, only purpose will take
your marriage the distance in life. You need to discover you purpose and
find out why God sent you to planet earth.
- Every marriage will go through a shock, you will be disappointed,
your expectations will not be met, instead of eating out and posting
pictures on Facebook and Instagram. Spend time planning for your
marriage. If you don’t have plans, your marriage will begin to drift and
eventually fail.
- Ladies, no one can love you like God. Only God can meet the deepest
longings of your heart. We are very insecure, vulnerable n pliable.
Don’t get married expecting anyone to love you or serve you. You need
to have an overflow of God’s love and ready to give out of the love
you’ve received.
- Love is not a feeling, it’s a decision. Before you sign the dotted
lines, love is a feeling, after you get married love is a decision.
Staying married is a decision, forgiveness is a decision. The world
defines love as the warm feelings, gifts, time under the sheets but God
defines love as being patient, kind, humble, not keeping a record of
wrongs, etc
- Marriage is spiritual warfare, Jesus said if two of you shall agree,
if you ask anything, it will be done,there’s an enemy that doesn’t want
couples to agree so God’s will won’t be achieved. He will let little
things become major issues so you are busy and distracted with issues
than fulfilling the purpose God brought you together.
- The most important thing in life isn’t getting married but
fulfilling your assignment. Whoever you get married to will either take
you further into God’s will or take you away from your destiny. When we
stand before God on judgement day, there will be no crowns for those who
married the most handsome or beautiful spouse but only for those who
completed the task God gave them.
- It’s better to be single, happy and serving the Lord than married,
depressed and stuck with the wrong person in a marriage heading nowhere.
It’s an irony that those who are unmarried want to get married while
those who are married wish they were single.
- Don’t tell anyone you love them. You don’t know them yet. You can’t
love what you don’t know. People pretend and after marriage you will
meet the real person and you might not love them as much. Man looks at
the outward appearance, but God looks at the heart. Ask God to give you a
spouse that has a heart like Him, someone that fears God and whose
heart pants after the business of the kingdom.
- God’s standards about sex hasn’t changed. It may be
acceptable to have sex or cohabit before marriage but we are setting up
ourselves for issues in the future. If you are not disciplined to wait
now, you will not be disciplined after marriage. Many couples are unable
to connect with each other because they have soul ties with previous
partners.
- Marriage is a risk, you don’t know what will happen. People change,
circumstances change. Take the leap with God. Make sure you hear
from God in the choice of a spouse. Many people are disappointed,
marriage didn’t bring with it all the promises they were expecting
because they ran ahead of God.
- There’s no perfect spouse, you’re not perfect so why do you expect
someone to be perfect, no matter who you get married the bad news is
you’ll meet someone who is more beautiful, more intelligent or more
spiritual than your spouse. You need to constantly be grateful. When you
stop thanking God for your spouse you will begin to look outside and
consider an affair.
- There is an increase in domestic violence in recent times, look out
for the telltale signs of an angry spouse. Don’t ignore the red flags.
Love is blind but marriage will open the blind eyes. Guys don’t get
married to a lady you can’t love (sacrifice, service, selfless). Ladies
don’t get married to a guy you can’t respect. Marriage is not
compulsory.
- There’s nothing like being compatible. There are different stages
and phases in any marriage. You don’t know how people will react or
behave when they lose their jobs, fail in life, struggle with a child
with special needs, or become bankrupt so it’s too early to say you are
compatible with anyone. Just pray that the love of your life becomes
your love for life.
- We all have secrets. We mask our past and put our best foot forward
when we are interested in someone. Be careful of anyone who doesn’t
answer questions when you ask, get to know all their secrets before you
sign the dotted line.Some secrets are pleasant, others are devastating
and change the dynamics of your relationship
- Marriage is not an achievement but a huge responsibility.
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